Weekly Tip from the Love and Logic® Experts
One of our Facebook friends wrote, "Is lying about brushing your teeth something to drop for my 11-year-old son? As we are pressing into the teenage years I am questioning what is worth not letting go because it is still lying which I don't want to condone."
Lying is unacceptable and wise parents don't ignore it or condone it. The wise parent does two things about lying.
#1. AVOID THE "DID YOU?" SITUATIONS
Very few humans, including adults, are like young George Washington in the cherry tree story. Most people, including children, tend to lie to protect themselves. If the youngster didn't brush his teeth, and the parent asks, "Did you brush your teeth?" the answer will probably be a lie. So, why ask in the first place?
A better approach might be to say, "I hope you're protecting your teeth by brushing. I've been a little worried for you since I pay for the good dentist reports and you pay for the bad ones. I hope you get a good report from the dentist."
And yes, a Love and Logic parent would have the child pay for the bad report. We don't make hollow threats. Remember that sincere empathy precedes the consequence. "How sad, a bad dentist report. Do you want to use your allowance money or what? Could you use a hug?"
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