My friend, Dr. Charles Fay, has been known to repeat this phrase: "Sad, not mad."
What does that really mean? Does it mean anger is bad? Does it mean that we should never be angry? I hope not!
Is this little reminder a phrase to help us take better care of ourselves? I hope so!
Angry, wrathful responses send messages that the problem is ours. These reactions put the focus on us (and how upset or mean we are) instead of keeping the focus on the child's unfortunate choice.
When we are sad for kids rather than mad at them, see how the message changes! Go HERE to read more about how to change your message!
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