Weekly Tip from the Love and Logic® Experts
She was riddled with guilt as she told me about the "awful" deed she'd done.
Her son headed off to school, forgetting an important assignment on the kitchen counter. Knowing he needed it, she {gulp} drove a few blocks and delivered the paper.
She finished her tale of terror and awaited a merciless scolding. Instead, I asked a few questions:
- Is he basically a responsible kid?
"Oh, yes. He helps out with his younger siblings and does chores without complaining." - Was he grateful you did this for him?
"He thanked me over and over when he got home. He didn't realize he'd left it there." - Does he expect things like this from you often?
"No, he really doesn't. I don't remind him or have to nag him nearly as much as some of my friends with their kids."
Then, I dropped the bomb: Sounds like you did the right thing.
She replied, "But, I thought it was bad to rescue. Don't you say kids need to learn from their mistakes?"
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