The Logic Won't Happen Without The Love!
How do we help our kids develop the type of cause-effect logic that leads to good decision-making? Is it by showing them how tough we are, or is it by showing them how much we love them as they experience the tough consequences of their poor decisions?
Our anger allows kids to blame us for the consequences
of their poor decisions.
Our loving empathy forces them to blame themselves
for these consequences.
If we're forgetting our sincere empathy, it will increase the odds that they'll lack the logical, commonsense reasoning required to stay safe in today's complex world.
Some reminders…
- Lock in the empathy first!
Before describing consequences, do your best to establish a sincere love connection with your child. Whenever appropriate, pair your words (e.g. "This is so sad.") with caring eye contact and touch.
This also applies to setting limits. Before saying, "You may have that toy when you can afford it," take a moment to show your love.
To see additional reminders and for more information click HERE!
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