Need Attention
Johnny had a need. Not many things in life sent him messages that said, "You're important" or "There is something special about you."
At school, Johnny felt the need to test and see if anybody found him to be important or special. He craved being noticed. As a result, he acted out a lot. He sought attention from fellow students and teachers in negative ways and gave adults fits.
Many of Johhny's teachers showed frustration. But Mrs. DeJesus was different. She would wander up to Johnny when he wasn't asking for attention, smile and notice something about him - that he liked basketball or that he was getting taller. She didn't take a lot of time or embarrass him in front of the class. She just scooted by his desk, noticed something unique about him and quickly moved on.
In spite of himself, Johnny found that he was drawn to Mrs. D. He always wanted to share news with her or find ways to please her. A strange thing happened in Mrs. DeJesus's class: the more she noticed Johnny, the less he messed around trying to be noticed. She met his need, but she did it on her terms.
Effective adults see unmet needs that are barriers to kids' success. Then, they plan healthy ways to help those needs get met.
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