Living Love & Logic Tip #66

Do you ever feel like you are on a tightrope? On one side of the narrow line is a scary drop into "Overprotection Canyon" while the other side offers an even worse fall into "Dangers-of-the-World Abyss." Why is it so difficult to stay balanced between coddling…and allowing disaster?

This world can be a pretty complicated place. Some dangers can seem very subtle - even harmless. In other cases, our instinct to rescue kids can kick in when it's really not necessary.

While we can't give you an easy, one-size-fits-all answer to this dilemma, we can offer some general guidelines to help you stay balanced:

• If somebody on Planet Earth will be hurt or killed, or somebody's future will be irreparably damaged, step in and save the day. By the way, how often is this really the case? Not often.

• Avoid rescuing when kids seem to EXPECT to be rescued. This can be a dangerous trend - when kids are trained to believe they can be as irresponsible or reckless as they want and then EXPECT us to swoop in.

• Be MORE ready to intervene with kids who don't usually need it. If a kid never seems to need rescued, pay close attention when he/she does.

• Base your decisions on real needs and real dangers, NOT what others might think. Parenting is not about impressing the neighbors. Your kids’ long-term health is way more important than the perceptions of others.

Find more solutions in Jim Fay's CD, Raising the Odds for Responsible Behavior.
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